How learning Emotional Logic can transform others’ lives as well as your own

23 Jan 2020

How to measure lives transformed? That question has driven some branches of science since the late 1700s. The impact on people’s lives of learning Emotional Logic is as wide ranging as people are themselves. And yet, some features are commonly found, and we recently measured one. 

Shortly after the birth of Emotional Logic 15 years ago, it was noticed that the first thing that improved on learning the technique (after sleep patterns!) is the quality of people’s relationships – whatever that means. Over the years we noticed how both men and women were more confident to talk about their emotions constructively when facing time of change. They were not just pouring out how bad they felt, or criticising each other’s behaviour or actions. As one person reported: ‘It’s all about being honest.’

But the significant word there is ‘talk’. We knew that some people had been able to teach others in their family or workplace what they had learnt with an EL coach, so we ran a brief JotForm online survey to people who had given permission to remain on our database after learning EL. We asked what had been the issue of greatest concern to them, then to rate how much it had disturbed their lives before and after learning EL. 

Of the 89 people who responded, 27% were male and 73% were female, varying in age from 16 to 80, with more than 50% aged 40-60. On a scale of one to 10, disturbance scores improved by 1-7 points as shown in the bar chart, with only 12% saying there was no change. No one deteriorated. 

We also asked if they had felt able to share their understanding of Emotional Logic with other people, or specifically with other family members. This retrospective audit is not a scientifically validated study. It does, however, illustrate numerically a vital difference between Emotional Logic lifelong learning and the individualistic therapies offered by the NHS. 

These pie charts clearly, and numerically, display how a direct consequence of learning Emotional Logic is not just personal development but also to improve conversational confidence, empowering people to share their new understanding of a healthy emotional adjustment process with others, including family members.

We know from anecdotal stories that there can be a spreading wave of improved emotional adjustments through families and small organisations following learning even a small amount about the useful purposes of unpleasant emotions. People can stop telling themselves and others off for having these loss emotions, and start talking instead about what is important enough in life for them to have had these emotions in the first place. Then good order starts to emerge out of chaos, and life improves in unexpected and original ways.

If you would like to spread conversational confidence within your relationships at work, home or school, please get in touch.