Card sorting and worksheets help you to see how your emotions do not arise one at a time during change. They arise in patterns. Your reactions to change arise out of the whole pattern!
The Logic we teach is the process of adjusting to change. If you do not name what you are worried you might lose (or might have to let go of) during that change, then hidden loss reactions may generate emotional chaos. We teach you how to map that chaos, link it to the hidden losses, and then plan your route through change by turning your emotional energy to useful purposes - to overcome setbacks.
When you SEE your emotions like this, you can learn how they are a healthy part of a LOGICAL PROCESS. You feel more reasonable even with unpleasant emotions! You can choose which emotions to stay with when you understand the logic of adjusting, and when you know what it is you are really adjusting to... And then you can turn all that emotional energy of yours into constructive action. Self-respect rapidly improves, and with it your empathy and your capacity to make decisions. Relationships improve, and co-operating with others assertively becomes easier. Anger can be understood and managed in a totally new way, as well as other unpleasant or difficult emotions.
Emotional patterns are not right or wrong. And, we say there are NO negative emotions, only unpleasant ones that have useful purposes to help you adjust to change. Your habits and patterns of emotional processing are either helpful or unhelpful to move you on. The Emotional Logic toolkit gives you the constructive feedback you need to untangle the unhelpful ones, and to release all that emotional energy for its proper relationship-building purposes.
Sometimes, when your emotional energy gets chaotic, you may feel odd or distressed and tense, and develop negative self-beliefs. People start telling themselves lies about their identity, such as, "I'm useless, I'm weak, dangerous, mad, bad, or even dementing!". You name it! Habits of thinking and behaviour arise from such negative self-beliefs. But when you understand your Emotional Logic and can map the chaos, you can see where it's all coming from! It's grief for multiple small hidden losses all piling in on top of itself! You'll soon stop telling yourself off like this, and start recognising how others' strange behaviour is probably cause by their way of grieving! Now you can do something different about it, and have something constructive to say...
